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It felt like teenagers are another species altogether

As a mother of two teenagers, I was always second guessing myself, about whether I was saying the right stuff. It felt like teenagers are another species altogether, until I remembered that I was part of that species not so long ago. Thinking back to those years I vowed I would never be like my parents, I would be cool and never do all the embarrassing things my parents did. Fast forward to 2016 and I sometimes catch myself “being my parents”

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As the saying goes “If you can’t beat them join them”, so I decided to get back my cool with these new skill sets:

*             The one thing you should never, ever say – “When I was your age”. That just closes down any chance you may have to communicate with your teenager.

*             You need to learn the lingo to be in with the times – we are at a time where everything is going at a much faster pace and shorter attention spans. The lingo of today is acronyms , if you don’t know the meaning of OMG, WTF, ROFLMAO, BRB, then its time you learnt fast.

*             I heard my son say the other day, that if you’re not on facebook you don’t exist. I wouldn’t want to be put into that category, so if you have been ignoring social media, its time you start “existing”. Facebook, twitter and instagram are not going anywhere so if you want to remain relevant, I suggest you start taking a few lessons from your kids. A quick hint, don’t send your kids a friend request on facebook, if they do accept it, but don’t comment on anything they post, its very uncool.

*            Music is like a religion for teenagers, so you know what you need to do right. If your girls are into One Direction or your boys like Nicky Minaj, you have to learn the lyrics, who knows you may actually enjoy it. Quick tip, don’t ever say the music from your generation was better.

*             Pay attention to what you wear, especially when your kids are having their friends around. I also prefer to be comfortable, but it won’t kill you to put on some heels and make up once in a while.

*             Eat with your fingers, burp and use that colourful language when someone cuts infront of you in traffic (when its just you and the kids) they will realize you are human too, and can help to ease tense situations. They’ve already heard and seen everything anyway.

*             Do cool stuff, like trading in that stationwagon for a sportscar, or turn up the volume when their favourite song is on the radio and sing to it.

Make your relationship with your teenager count.

Author : Suyan BudhooLife Coach Pretoria

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You can choose words like I am strong, happy, wealthy, healthy

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During the month of love, we at Success Focus are focusing on relationships, the relationship with yourself, your loved one’s, colleagues and the rest of the world. Be sure to catch all the articles in this series.

My Relationship with Myself

Whatever comes after the words I am is entirely up to you. You can choose words like I am weak, worthless, depressed, sad and have results such as sickness, depression and even death show up in your life or you can choose words like I am strong, happy, wealthy, healthy and prosperous. As soon as you said those positive words, didn’t you sit up and feel confident, like a waterfall washing over you, leaving you refreshed. I Am, affirmations create a sense that “I Am” worthy and powerful. Nobody should ever forget that they matter in this world.

Nobody can make you feel the way do, except you. So why not choose to live in harmony with the world rather than in resistance. Living in harmony does not mean you have to forget about your uniqueness, it just means that no matter what challenges show up in your life, you will achieve that which is important to you. Use the challenges as opportunities, opportunities to overcome your fears and develop your strength.

As parents we sometimes rob ourselves of loving and caring for ourselves, thinking that our children should always come first, at any cost. By doing this we are turning our children into bullies and self-centred monsters. They will start to believe that they are all important, and mums feelings are not. The world out there will teach them a very different lesson, no matter how special mum thinks they are. Mum’s need for peace and happiness is in no way less than her sons need for playing soccer.

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We are all whole and complete, the only person that can make us feel any less is the person in the mirror. To keep that person in the mirror happy you need to remind yourself daily that God moulded you in his image, shouldn’t you love yourself the way God loved you.

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Children’s educational, recreational or spiritual lives

Dad, a girls first superman and a boys first James Bond, maybe that’s taking it a little too far, nonetheless you get the picture. Fathers, in the past have been portrayed as that man that leaves for work early in the morning and returns late, usually sitting infront of the tv or behind a newspaper. They did not play a major role in their children’s educational, recreational or spiritual lives, however their role seems to have changed over the past few decades.

Fathers now play a more active role in their children’s education, attending school meetings, helping with homework and even playing chauffeur. Perhaps circumstances, with both parents having to work, forced these added responsibilities onto them or could it be that they are genuinely interested?

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Parents and Kids Relationship

Whatever the reason, this new age dad is just the answer to today’s social problems. Studies have shown that children living with both parents are emotionally more stable and display a higher level of confidence than children coming from single parent families. It has also been proven that homes with both parents have better financial stability. Despite all the encouragement from government and civil society, South Africa still sits with the dilemma that only 33% of children under the age of 5 come from homes with both parents living together.

Whether it is because of divorce or people just deciding not to marry, the truth is, children need their fathers to be part of their lives. It is important for a father to provide financially for his children as well as to have contact time, physical affection, day-to-day involvement and supportive communication.

The type of relationship a child has with his/her father can determine the kind of relationship he/she will forge with their spouse, co-workers and even their own children. Being a good father does not only mean fulfilling the obligations set out by the law. A good father is that man who will stay up late while his son studies for his matric exams or while his daughter completes her art assignment. He is that man who will take his son to the golf course on a Saturday, instead of spending it with his friends and he is that man who will spend an entire day shopping with his daughter for that perfect pair of shoes. At the end of the day, these are the memories his children will cherish of their superhero.

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Suyan Budhoo – The Life Coach and Motivational Speaker South Africa

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I am a combination of a painful past, a great present and an even greater future.   I am a mother of two teenagers with life experience beyond my years. I am a firm believer of the past not having much influence on who we are now and who we are capable of becoming, therefore I choose not to dwell on my history.

I have worked in the legal environment in excess of 10 years with experience in corporate law in the private and public sector. In law we are usually expected to find solutions to every problem, I therefore believe that becoming a coach was a natural progression for me. Knowing business culture definitely gives me an edge when it comes to life coaching executives and project coaching. That being said I believe that every person is unique and has their own way in which they accept and process information. I combine my experience in the legal field with my skills and tools as a coach to help my clients achieve their goals as ceo’s, directors and managers quicker and more efficiently.

Spiritual is what we become as a result of our experiences on the inside, and it is definitely not interchangeable with the word religion, as religion is what comes from the outside.   As a spiritual coach I choose to believe that greatness lies within each and every human being.   I live by the maxim that “if faith in ourselves had been more extensively taught and practised, I am sure a very large portion of the evils and miseries that we have would have vanished.” My aim therefore is to see every individual achieve their highest potential.

By virtue of the fact that we are human we have relationships, some fail to make it into our present and we cannot live without others. There are people in this world that will not like you no matter what you do, yet there are others who would love you despite all your imperfections. Sometimes we do not know who we are, yet we expect others to understand us, we place unfair expectations on others and forget to check if we are meeting those expectations ourselves. I recently came across this quote by Charles F Glassman “Before you discover your soulmate you must first discover your soul” this definitely resonates with who I am.

Due to all the failures and tragedies that I personally experienced and overcame I am now on a path to help others overcome the challenges they are experiencing. I believe that my purpose on earth is to bring about a sense of pride, fulfilment and possibility to everyone I have the good fortune of meeting. Through my writing, public speaking and coaching I wish to advocate the message that anything is possible, all you have to do is BELIEVE.

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Dedicated to those who have failed a grade or an exam and are feeling ashamed or angry

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After making you, God broke the mould, that is how special you are. Todays piece is dedicated to those who have failed a grade or an exam and are feeling ashamed or angry to go back to school or try again. I realise that it cannot be easy to face those same students that made fun of you last year or to go back to a grade when all your friends have moved on. Yes, it is hard, but nobody said life was going to be easy.

Someone said “fail as early as possible”, I never understood that but I believe I do now. Some people sail through their schooling years with ease and sometimes through University too. They do not know what it means to go through the pain that comes with failing early on in life. These very people that did so well early on life, did not have the opportunity to build up their strength. For those who failed early on in life, they have become stronger and possess that courage and perseverance it takes to handle any challenge that they may face. Failing early in life is actually beneficial to the soul, it equips you with all the skills you will need to overcome the obstacles you will face at a later stage.

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A learned man was once asked by a disciple “Sir what is worse than losing everything?” the learned man responded “ It is worse to lose hope that you will regain everything again”. This is the essence of life, never give up hope. After winter comes summer, and the trees go from bare and lifeless to green. Nature is imparting knowledge to you, look and listen. You are now in the winter of your life, and just as the seasons change your life too will change. All you have to do is remain calm and never give up on yourself.

After every storm there is a rainbow, but without the storm you will never see the rainbow. Remain open to challenges, as these challenges can turn into opportunities for you to become a stronger. Start to look for the good in every situation, and you will and must find it.

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Having thousands of friends on facebook can never compensate

Why is it that so many people struggle to find and maintain harmonious relationships, and choose to be single instead? Whatever the reason, neither Science nor Religion dictates that man should live his life alone, infact both promote the union of marriage.

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At the rate the world is moving, finding time for communication or anything that does not include a technical gizmo can be a challenge. You would think that with Google and Wikipedia finding the solution to all our problems would be simpler and faster.  I have realised that knowledge alone doesn’t make you a better person, it is what you do with that knowledge that makes a difference.

Experience has taught me that mastering micro-expressions or personality types in theory means nothing if you do not take the time to interact with people on a humane level.  The only way you can do this is by communicating, so for those people who believe that they can make do with social media, they are sorely mistaken.

Having thousands of friends on facebook can never compensate for one real life friend.  Someone to share your innermost fears with, to act crazy with or cry with when your dog dies.  And that is the reality of life.  No matter how far we travel in the technical world it cannot compensate for our emotional needs which everybody has by virtue of being human.

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According to Hinduism there are 4 primary reasons why people should get married, i.e to fulfil their dharma (duty) , artha (possessions), kama (physical desires) and moksha (ultimate spiritual release) together.  It may be true that one or other pursuits can be obtained as a single person, but in order to live a complete life Hinduism encourages marriage.

In Christianity marriage is regarded as Holy, Jesus Christ himself stated “that God had created mankind as male and female and that in marriage the two will become one flesh.  So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate”

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Marriages that last a lifetime need more than just love to stand the test of time, and external influences. It requires a deep understanding of ones self, values and goals before you can understand a spouse.  If your aspirations are towards finding a soul-mate, you must first discover your own soul.

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Relationship Coach & President at Success Focus Pty Ltd

Life is forever changing, nothing remains the same

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Yes life is hard, not just yours. Everyone has at sometime or the other been brought to their knees in pain, anguish, despair or fear. If you’ve lived long enough you are sure to have had some sort of “down time”. At the time it may have seemed like a dark cloud hovering over you as if it would never lift, but it did and you are still here reading this post.

When life throws us curve balls, it comes with no warnings or instructions on how to deal with it.  We are left to fumble our way through difficult, unexplored situations with little or no skills on how to deal with all “the stuff” that is thrown our way.

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A few years ago the highest cause of suicide was lost love, but today it’s debt. Life is forever changing, nothing remains the same.  If yesterday, you were unhappy, then who’s to say you can’t be wildly blissful today.  If yesterday you were jobless, who’s to say today you can’t receive a fantastic job offer. If yesterday you were hurting because you thought you lost the love of your life, who’s to say you can’t find your soulmate today.  As cliché as this may sound, after every storm there is a rainbow.

If, as you read this, you are going through a difficult time financially, a divorce, or your life as you know it is not going the way you would like it to, then take it from me, someone who had the misfortune to go through all of these disasters simultaneously, you are not alone, and this too will pass.  It’s not unusual to think that God is unfair or he has something against us being happy, I had those thoughts a few times and I’m sure I’m not alone.  But when you are mature enough and have seen some of the problems that people face, you cannot help but feel grateful for your problems too.  This may sound obscure to some, but in comparison to terminal cancer and being jobless or homeless, my problems seemed insignificant.

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I obviously still felt weighed down by my problems, except now I felt a lot luckier than most.  I believe this is what got me through those difficult days, knowing that there are people out there that still have the courage to face a new day without knowing where their next meal will come from or if this will be their last day.  If they could face such unsurmountable circumstances with grace then so could I.

During my most difficult days I was reminded of this quote “What is worse than losing everything, it is losing the faith that we can gain everything back.”  In those words lie the secret of overcoming any difficult situation.  Have faith that tomorrow, or next week or maybe next year things will look better, but never give up or lose that faith.  Your tears will be replaced by smiles, your lack by abundance and your pain by love.

Suyan Budhoo
President at SuccessFocus – The Life Coaching Company South Africa

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