As a mother of two teenagers, I was always second guessing myself, about whether I was saying the right stuff. It felt like teenagers are another species altogether, until I remembered that I was part of that species not so long ago. Thinking back to those years I vowed I would never be like my parents, I would be cool and never do all the embarrassing things my parents did. Fast forward to 2016 and I sometimes catch myself “being my parents”
As the saying goes “If you can’t beat them join them”, so I decided to get back my cool with these new skill sets:
- The one thing you should never, ever say – “When I was your age”. That just closes down any chance you may have to communicate with your teenager.
- You need to learn the lingo to be in with the times – we are at a time where everything is going at a much faster pace and shorter attention spans. The lingo of today is acronyms , if you don’t know the meaning of OMG, WTF, ROFLMAO, BRB, then its time you learnt fast.
- I heard my son say the other day, that if you’re not on facebook you don’t exist. I wouldn’t want to be put into that category, so if you have been ignoring social media, its time you start “existing”. Facebook, twitter and instagram are not going anywhere so if you want to remain relevant, I suggest you start taking a few lessons from your kids. A quick hint, don’t send your kids a friend request on facebook, if they do accept it, but don’t comment on anything they post, its very uncool.
- Music is like a religion for teenagers, so you know what you need to do right. If your girls are into One Direction or your boys like Nicky Minaj, you have to learn the lyrics, who knows you may actually enjoy it. Quick tip, don’t ever say the music from your generation was better.
- Pay attention to what you wear, especially when your kids are having their friends around. I also prefer to be comfortable, but it won’t kill you to put on some heels and make up once in a while.
- Eat with your fingers, burp and use that colorful language when someone cuts infront of you in traffic (when its just you and the kids) they will realize you are human too, and can help to ease tense situations. They’ve already heard and seen everything anyway.
- Do cool stuff, like trading in that station wagon for a sports car, or turn up the volume when their favourite song is on the radio and sing to it.
Make your relationship with your teenager count.
Author : Suyan Budhoo – Life Coach Pretoria
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