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It felt like teenagers are another species altogether

As a mother of two teenagers, I was always second guessing myself, about whether I was saying the right stuff. It felt like teenagers are another species altogether, until I remembered that I was part of that species not so long ago. Thinking back to those years I vowed I would never be like my parents, I would be cool and never do all the embarrassing things my parents did. Fast forward to 2016 and I sometimes catch myself “being my parents”

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Mothers Relationship with teenager

As the saying goes “If you can’t beat them join them”, so I decided to get back my cool with these new skill sets:

*             The one thing you should never, ever say – “When I was your age”. That just closes down any chance you may have to communicate with your teenager.

*             You need to learn the lingo to be in with the times – we are at a time where everything is going at a much faster pace and shorter attention spans. The lingo of today is acronyms , if you don’t know the meaning of OMG, WTF, ROFLMAO, BRB, then its time you learnt fast.

*             I heard my son say the other day, that if you’re not on facebook you don’t exist. I wouldn’t want to be put into that category, so if you have been ignoring social media, its time you start “existing”. Facebook, twitter and instagram are not going anywhere so if you want to remain relevant, I suggest you start taking a few lessons from your kids. A quick hint, don’t send your kids a friend request on facebook, if they do accept it, but don’t comment on anything they post, its very uncool.

*            Music is like a religion for teenagers, so you know what you need to do right. If your girls are into One Direction or your boys like Nicky Minaj, you have to learn the lyrics, who knows you may actually enjoy it. Quick tip, don’t ever say the music from your generation was better.

*             Pay attention to what you wear, especially when your kids are having their friends around. I also prefer to be comfortable, but it won’t kill you to put on some heels and make up once in a while.

*             Eat with your fingers, burp and use that colourful language when someone cuts infront of you in traffic (when its just you and the kids) they will realize you are human too, and can help to ease tense situations. They’ve already heard and seen everything anyway.

*             Do cool stuff, like trading in that stationwagon for a sportscar, or turn up the volume when their favourite song is on the radio and sing to it.

Make your relationship with your teenager count.

Author : Suyan BudhooLife Coach Pretoria

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You can choose words like I am strong, happy, wealthy, healthy

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During the month of love, we at Success Focus are focusing on relationships, the relationship with yourself, your loved one’s, colleagues and the rest of the world. Be sure to catch all the articles in this series.

My Relationship with Myself

Whatever comes after the words I am is entirely up to you. You can choose words like I am weak, worthless, depressed, sad and have results such as sickness, depression and even death show up in your life or you can choose words like I am strong, happy, wealthy, healthy and prosperous. As soon as you said those positive words, didn’t you sit up and feel confident, like a waterfall washing over you, leaving you refreshed. I Am, affirmations create a sense that “I Am” worthy and powerful. Nobody should ever forget that they matter in this world.

Nobody can make you feel the way do, except you. So why not choose to live in harmony with the world rather than in resistance. Living in harmony does not mean you have to forget about your uniqueness, it just means that no matter what challenges show up in your life, you will achieve that which is important to you. Use the challenges as opportunities, opportunities to overcome your fears and develop your strength.

As parents we sometimes rob ourselves of loving and caring for ourselves, thinking that our children should always come first, at any cost. By doing this we are turning our children into bullies and self-centred monsters. They will start to believe that they are all important, and mums feelings are not. The world out there will teach them a very different lesson, no matter how special mum thinks they are. Mum’s need for peace and happiness is in no way less than her sons need for playing soccer.

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We are all whole and complete, the only person that can make us feel any less is the person in the mirror. To keep that person in the mirror happy you need to remind yourself daily that God moulded you in his image, shouldn’t you love yourself the way God loved you.

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Children’s educational, recreational or spiritual lives

Dad, a girls first superman and a boys first James Bond, maybe that’s taking it a little too far, nonetheless you get the picture. Fathers, in the past have been portrayed as that man that leaves for work early in the morning and returns late, usually sitting infront of the tv or behind a newspaper. They did not play a major role in their children’s educational, recreational or spiritual lives, however their role seems to have changed over the past few decades.

Fathers now play a more active role in their children’s education, attending school meetings, helping with homework and even playing chauffeur. Perhaps circumstances, with both parents having to work, forced these added responsibilities onto them or could it be that they are genuinely interested?

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Parents and Kids Relationship

Whatever the reason, this new age dad is just the answer to today’s social problems. Studies have shown that children living with both parents are emotionally more stable and display a higher level of confidence than children coming from single parent families. It has also been proven that homes with both parents have better financial stability. Despite all the encouragement from government and civil society, South Africa still sits with the dilemma that only 33% of children under the age of 5 come from homes with both parents living together.

Whether it is because of divorce or people just deciding not to marry, the truth is, children need their fathers to be part of their lives. It is important for a father to provide financially for his children as well as to have contact time, physical affection, day-to-day involvement and supportive communication.

The type of relationship a child has with his/her father can determine the kind of relationship he/she will forge with their spouse, co-workers and even their own children. Being a good father does not only mean fulfilling the obligations set out by the law. A good father is that man who will stay up late while his son studies for his matric exams or while his daughter completes her art assignment. He is that man who will take his son to the golf course on a Saturday, instead of spending it with his friends and he is that man who will spend an entire day shopping with his daughter for that perfect pair of shoes. At the end of the day, these are the memories his children will cherish of their superhero.

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Despite doing your daily affirmations, positive self-talk and mind power exercises

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Mind Power Exercise

I don’t know about you but I feel like I’m being bombarded with self-development and wealth building information from every direction. But what do you when, despite doing your daily affirmations, positive self-talk and mind power exercises, nothing seems to be taking you closer to the life of your dreams, as they promised in the dvd’s.

Do you just give up, or do you persist? Could you have been wrong for buying into all the hype? I have visited this question many times during my lifetime and this is what I came up with. Nothing stays the same. A simple example, we may travel the same route daily, but we never see the same cars as we saw the previous day. We need to accept that change is the only constant. As we adapt our driving to different conditions so too must we adapt our lives to different circumstances that we are faced with.

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In order to face all the spin balls and googlies on a daily basis, there are a few things that can help us stay in the game.

Always expect better days, as I’ve said before nothing stays the same, so if you are having a bad day, chin up, tomorrow can only get better.

A smile can brighten up not only your day, but the other persons day as well, it costs you nothing and yet you are wealthier for sharing it.

Stay positive, if you are going to think, why not think good thoughts. Stress has never solved anything, infact it robs you of your ability to think clearly when there maybe a solution closer than you think.

I am sure you have heard that what you focus on, is what you receive. Instead of focusing on having a successful business or finding a perfect job, you worry about whether you will make it in business or if you will ever find that perfect job. That is why despite, doing all your affirmations and mind-power exercises you are not manifesting the expected results.

In all the self–development courses that I have attended, very few actually speak about relaxing and staying calm whilst you are trying to attract that which you want.

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Unless you can remain calm, you are not going to be able to manifest the results that you want. Our minds can be restless and can rob us of the peace that we deserve. It can make us feel insecure and incapable, if we let it, however once you learn to control that negative chatter that creeps in now and again, you will achieve all that you deserve.

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